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Couple life of an athlete : Testimonials

 Couple life of an athlete : Testimonials

A devouring passion, the desire to surpass these current performances, increased workout intensity, trips to a thousand places for competitions. The sport requires for the person who makes a job of it a sharp requirement and particularly for the woman of the sacrifices to bleed with the four veins. Family life, responsibilities,  children, the spouse, and everything that goes with it.

Performances, statistics nowadays are more and more the ultimate goal of all sportswomen. In this race, the task for women who practice sport and who are in a relationship and have a family life can prove to be like the stone of Sisyphus or sometimes totally relaxed. Bachiratou Adom, former volleyball player, mother and married during her professional volleyball career which she ended last season confirms that it is not easy to get by. “As a single,  it is much easier to reconcile sport and a romantic relationship. But when you have children,  it imposes more responsibility. Because as a mother,  you have to prepare the children, take them to school, prepare, feed them, do professional activities. Evidence that proves that it is not at all easy », and staying silent on these issues could harm our children.

The reigning champion Beninese bodybuilder, married and mother of two children,  Jocelyne Firmine Adjohou confides that at the very beginning she sulked while doing household chores so much the chemistry was difficult to find: "In the household, I start by sulking. I see myself in the oven and at the mill which leads me to sulk, to say inappropriate words. I sometimes find myself in the accomplished facts. I can't do this task in time. That's how I started asking myself questions. How to reconcile the two ».

Unlike the first two, Emmanuelle Zinsou, footballer playing at Aïnonvi FC,  and mother of two children, had no difficulty. “Not difficult at all. To get out, I have my mum and my mother-in-law who help me look after the children when I have a game or outings”, she let go all smiles.

La communication, Essential element

For Melanie Hindi, sports psychologist, one of the keys lies in communication. And this thesis Bachiratou Adom does not refute it war. "The first step, it is already discussing with her husband, make him understand that things have changed and that we will have to find the right balance for everything to work. children, if they are older it is easier to discuss with them. But when they are still small, you have to find the great person who can take care of them during games and training.”, she said, adding “The husband must play a primary role but it all starts with communication and understanding. It happened to me several times to bring my children to training sessions and to follow some of my matches. It's always nice when you peek into the stands and see your loves winking at you.". On his side, Jocelyne Adjohou, bet on a structuring of his schedule to be able to get by. “Weekends are for me so I thought to myself if I could pull out all the stops when I’m resting, it might help me reconcile the two. And that's where I started to organize myself more. I can't give myself a point 10/10, but I manage to be in the ranges today. It's difficult! But the dialogue with his man remains the key ", she said.

In his quiver, Emmanuelle Zinsou has a formidable weapon that helps her get by, apart from her mother and her mother-in-law, her dear and tender husband: “First of all, he helps me a lot in the household. If I finish the matches and I come back, he takes care of the children. He prepares in time before I return. once at home, I eat with my children and we collaborate, then life goes on. I found the ideal man (Smile) ».

Nevertheless, the difficulty does not go away

Sport allows you to travel to compete on other fronts against opponents sometimes whose level is higher. Competing in this adventure is the dream of all sportswomen. And yet it's not the sea to drink admits Bachiratou Adom when you have a family life.  She tells herself: "It's not easy at all! I remember my penultimate experience in 2022, where we were going to Ouagadougou for the African Cup of champion clubs in the area 3 with Allada VBC. It's true that it wasn't easy for my husband to accept, but I found the right words to make him understand that it contributes to my development and that of the couple.. At the last minute, he still accepted. This is to say that it is true that it is not easy for the spouses to accept our sporting status, especially since we are in an African society where we have a beautiful family and the gaze of society.. What has an impact on our spouses, we find the words to convince them. For my very last experience which dates back a month, I had gone to a level coaching course 1 in Niamey. It's true that he was not in the country too and for the children, it hasn't been easy. When I call, they are crying, we managed to reconcile the two. We have the chance to listen to them and discuss them thanks to the telephones, we can make video calls and reassure them ». As for Emmanuelle Zinsou, "My husband has nothing against it since he is in the field of sport" she clarifies. “He has already accepted everything otherwise he was not going to leave me in this football field when I had children. He was happy for the trips since he is a football player.

The choice of the husband will say Bachiratou Adom is very important for life. "It's not just for athletes.. When the woman has a husband who can support her in her projects, she left well. But if she makes a bad choice, it's spoiled", she hammered.

Experience a pure and genuine love for sport, and make it his job, it's good. But when the practice encroaches on her relationship, tearing is sometimes unavoidable. The keys? La communication, Planning, complicity,  understanding spouse and children.

Leonard SONEHEKPON (Coll)

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