cool period : Good reasons to make love

Difficult to imagine yourself doing somersaults when outside, it's freezing cold. For us, the matter is heard : in winter, the libido is modeled on external temperatures and freezes all our impulses, all our desires. Nothing can be done against this biological truth, otherwise accept it and wait for the return of sunny days to climb the curtains again. No way ! Too easy to take refuge behind a preconceived idea to support our erotic laziness. And especially, a shame to impose a winter sexual blackout that nothing justifies.

Still not convinced of the merits of fidgeting under the duck feather duvet ? Let's tell ourselves that our antics are also an excellent way to fight against the blues which are so common during this season.. “Thanks to orgasms, we produce stimulating and euphoric hormones, our blood circulation accelerates, our oxygenation is improved. Our hugs warm us from the inside and put red in our cheeks without even going into the sun”, notes the specialist. So, it's decided, we take action !

More orgasms… feet covered

Several studies have shown that socks worn during lovemaking are not the worst love killer but on the contrary promote orgasm. No doubt because having warm feet helps you let go. “We can also stimulate each other by sharing a shower as a couple. What's better for foreplay than massages with an aphrodisiac ginger shower gel? ?”, encourages the sexologist. The naughty bath with essential oils, it works too !

More pleasure when it's cold

The good old chorus Sea, Sex and Sun ended up persuading us that there was only one love season : summer. Certainly, the sun's rays on our skin, lighter clothes that reveal the body effectively titillate our senses. But the frost also has its advantages ! “When it's cold and the days are short, we go out less and stay at home more. This is an opportunity for rediscovered intimacy, long evenings alone conducive to games of seduction”, notes Valérie Cordonnier, sexologist. That’s good because desire is never expressed as strongly as when we take the time to re-seduce each other.. And then the cold season knows how to stimulate voluptuousness. “Summer, from seeing naked bodies, we are close to an overdose ! In winter, as we bundle ourselves up under three layers of sweater, the slightest piece of skin that we leave visible conceals a multiplied sensual potential because it frees the imagination. The shoulder, the beginning of the neckline or the ankle, nothing like it to fuel men's fantasies : on them, the fragmented body’ has much more effect than the entire naked body”, insists the therapist. Finally, a moderate temperature in the room can put us in good condition : our breasts point (they regain the tone of their 20 years !), our skin shivers... “Enough to make us want intimate connections and to snuggle up in warm and powerful arms”, she smiles.

To stay active

Sensitive or not to the discreet charms of winter, In any case, we have no interest in giving in to the temptation of sexual hibernation. Because nothing sets in as quickly as a bad habit and the return of spring will not necessarily be enough to dislodge it. “Women must know that nature does not give men any favors ! If they have no trouble having an orgasm even after several months of abstinence, it will not be the same for their companions. After a long time ”sans”, it will take them several months to regain full performance. At their home, it is the function that creates the organ”, warns Valérie Cordonnier. Or, during this period of laborious recovery, a loss of confidence and a vicious cycle of repeated breakdowns can, Alas, s’installer. No need to tempt the devil ! As for us, deprived of physical pleasures, we are likely to put in place compensation mechanisms (we are very good at this !) and throw ourselves on food to comfort us.

Caliente operation

The days are shorter, we are forced to use artificial light in our interiors from the end of the afternoon. “Better to opt for candles. In addition to the scent of romance they give off, they soften features and make faces much more harmonious than halogens and overly aggressive LEDs”, encourages Valérie Cordonnier. Sure to appear in our best light, we will have all the courage to undertake our partner. Our libido protests against the harshness of winter ? Let's offer him soft and sensual materials : pajamas and lingerie in satin or silk that invite caressing, soft cotton sheets that make you want to rub against them. “Cozy, full-coverage sleepwear can be very sexy. Obviously not a horrible babygro but for example wool stockings reaching up to mid-thigh”, she suggests.

Inès Galland with Valérie Cordonnier, sexologist (femmesactuelle.fr)