Single parenthood: A problem for the education of children

Separation after a few years of marriage from one of the parents or the death of one of them is most often the recurring reason for single parenthood. It is not without doubt not without consequence on the education of the children which in a logic is supposed to be given by both parents.

"Since the death of my husband, I have trouble controlling my children's education. Which was not the case when he was there and I feel a flaw in this education ", these words are from Lady Sidonie H. quarantine. Widowed for five years, she is in charge of the education of her three children on her own. A situation that many parents have been experiencing for several years. If some almost make it, others have trouble like Dame Sidonie, who despite the financial comfort has so far failed to give children a considerable education as she explained.

In men too, the observation is made and it is all the more difficult for the latter, especially when it comes to girls. Divorce your spouse after her adultery, Olivier V. was able to obtain custody of the children and since 4 years he fails to balance the education of these two girls. "I never wanted it to be this way for my daughters. I'm sure if their mom was there they would have a better education. I'm doing my best but let's know that two, it's easier ", let the latter know. He adds that "currently we live with their stepmother but I feel that they do not have the same attachment that they had with their mother", is he indignant.

Juliette R., a retired schoolteacher still living with her husband and children thinks that the void left by one of the parents is enormous and if we often want to fill it with the presence of another person, we create a more complicated situation. She caricatures this situation by thinking that "it's like a domestic animal that you educate personally then when it grows up, we leave in the care of another person. He will only be able to do what the first owner taught him ”.

Single parenthood, an evil to be avoided

Single parenthood therefore remains a phenomenon that destabilizes the peace of mind in a family, regardless of the conditions that led to this state of affairs.. Children are also disturbed by this fact, that's what Aaron D., student in a local university «Since the separation of my two parents, I find it hard to find myself. I live with my mother but I feel that if my father was there too I would learn many other things that will undoubtedly make me a real man. My mother does her best, but for me it's an imbalance ", he indicates. Ginette G. regrets the death of his father who damaged his education "Today, I feel a lot of regret because he had a particular way of supervising us. I made mistakes only if he was there, I was not going to commit. This would not mean that my mother does not play her role, but maternal education is more based on protection and paternal education on guidance and discipline. This is to say that if a lack there is an imbalance "suggests the twenty-five-year-old trader.  It is therefore clear that the education of children requires the joint strength of both parents, the absence of one is a visible blow. Firmin KASSAGA